Special guest post by Daniel Passini.
Close your eyes for a moment. Now imagine your child’s life 10 years; 20 years; 30 years from now. What kind of adult are they? What kind of spouse are they? What kind of parent are they?
It may be difficult to grasp what that kind of distance down the road will look like; but I believe if you want to have the greatest impact on your child’s life, you have to begin now with the end in mind.
I actually picked up the concept of beginning with the end in mind from Stephen Covey. (The concept is kind of a spin off from Proverbs 22:6, when applied to parenting). Since reading about it, it has revolutionized the way I look at things, and I believe it will do the same for you as well.
Now, pair “beginning with the end in mind” with what Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do.” I believe your children are the result of what you repeatedly do around them, what you repeatedly tell them, but most importantly what you repeatedly exemplify for them when your words and actions align (or not).
When you think about your child’s future I’m sure you desire for them to be successful and to have an amazing life. You probably desire for them to have an amazing and powerful marriage as well.
The greatest way you can ensure that happens is to begin now with the end result in mind. Remember, the seeds you plant today will determine the fruit you bear tomorrow; or as Warren Buffett once said “Someone is sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago.”
That shade is available because someone else began with the end result in mind. Below are three intentional ways you can gear your parenting with the end result in mind.
Be intentional about how you love them.
I’m sure we can each recall the way our parents loved or failed to love us. I came from a broken home, and an abusive parent. This set the example that I wanted to be the complete opposite of. The more intentional you can be in how you interact with and love your child by making the most of every moment, will equip them to be amazing parents later themselves.
Be intentional about how you love your wife.
Your children are watching even when you think they are not. The way you treat and love your wife will be forever emblazoned on their conscience. Your sons are watching and learning how they should love their future wife. Your daughters are watching and learning what is acceptable from a husband. Be intentional about how you love your wife, love her fiercely to exemplify a powerful marriage for your children.
Be intentional about your pursuit of the Lord.
Most importantly, a man’s constant pursuit of a deeper revelation of the Lord stands above all else. The example you set in pursuing the Lord, and living by His indwelling life will set the precedent for their spiritual walk. Let your words and actions align, and in all things point them to the Father.
I encourage you to continually pause and reflect on what you are doing today. Always live with the end in mind so you do not lose your way. A few “degrees” off of your heading today, means you will be miles away from your destination down the road. Always evaluate, and reevaluate to determine your heading.
Guest Author Bio:
I currently reside in Texas with my beautiful wife. I am a writer, speaker, and coach equipping believers to go deeper in their faith, build thriving marriages, and to leave a lasting impact on their world. If you would like to connect deeper, you can find me at danielpassini.org or on Facebook.
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